When things come up that you hadn’t thought of, don’t be hard on yourself.  Unexpected things are a chance to learn about something you didn’t know before.  You can learn how to improve any situation — good or bad — in your life.

"I'm not afraid of storms, for I'm learning how to sail my ship." (Louisa May Alcott)

Some people may tell you that life is “bad” or “unfair” and they defend this view as being “realistic”.   A reason they might say this is because they are making choices that result in things going badly for them.  It could also be because they have been taught negative ideas about life and think that is “just the way things are.”

A negative world view actually can be “realistic” if you are doing the things in your life which would result in negative consequences.  But, life can be calm, logical, and positive, if you have understanding and have prepared.

It is comforting to know that everything in life can be understood and improved.  There is much you can do to change situations for the better.  Even if you cannot change the situation at this time, you can still do a lot to understand it and learn to handle it successfully.